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Valued Living in the Holiday Rush

with Kaitlin Harkess, PhD
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Welcome to the eighteenth episode of Season Five of Wisdom for Wellbeing Podcast. In this episode, I talk you through finding a balance between spending time with loved ones while also taking care of your self by focusing on your values this holiday season.

Want to keep in touch? Head to @drkaitlin on Instagram or @wisdomforwellbeingpod on Facebook to connect.

What is covered in this episode:

>>Consider energy and expectations; lots on, the balance of delighting in season and friends/family colleagues and taking care of yourself.

>>Holidays, but what is the intention? Marker in the calendar, ritual or tradition, sparkly joy and magic, friends family, slow reading or beach – just because society says something is important that isn’t necessarily inherently true for you – that you might also really value your family and friends, and some fat hat is balancing needs

>>Buy back time e.g. platter etc; op shop or home-crafted gifts, decrease waste and consumption; this aligns with values. Also consider experience gifts and honorary donations

>>Remember, there are no RULES! It’s all about you considering your values, temperament, expectations and own content

 A few questionnaires to check in on your values:

The Valued Living Questionnaire

The Personal Values Assessment

Dr Kaitlin Harkess

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Why I use a sauna as a psychologist… and why it mi Why I use a sauna as a psychologist… and why it might support your nervous system too 🔥 

Saunas can be a powerful self-soothing tool because they give your nervous system a clear sensory shift. When you are overwhelmed, your thinking brain goes offline, so having simple practices you can reach for in the moment really matters.

In The Somatic Workbook for Nervous System Regulation and Anxiety Management: 85+ Body-Based Practices for Deepening Awareness, Navigating Emotions, and Building Resilience, I share how sauna therapy can support you when you are feeling low, numb, or stuck. The warmth, endorphins, and growing research behind sauna bathing can help bring calm, clarity, and a sense of being back in your body.

A quick guideline: use cold when you are anxious or panicky, and use heat when you feel shut down or flat. You can move between the two depending on what your system needs.

The reel shows a glimpse from the Self-Soothing Toolbox chapter.

If this resonates, save it for when you need a nervous system shift. Your future self will thank you.

Follow for more psychological and somatic strategies to regulate your system and support emotional well-being.
✨ Last day to grab the free book copy! ✨ A little ✨ Last day to grab the free book copy! ✨

A little reminder that today is the final day to download The Somatic Workbook for Nervous System Regulation and Anxiety Management for free via Kindle. It’s being offered as a gift to support building Amazon reviews 💝

A lot of you have shared how the practices are already supporting you, and quite a few psychologists have messaged saying they’re using the exercises with clients too. While the book is written for a general audience, the tools are very clinician-friendly.

Amazon has made the setup a bit confusing, so here’s how to get the free version without Kindle Unlimited:

📚 Go to the book page

📚Tap Kindle

📚You’ll see two options: “Read with Kindle Unlimited” and “Buy for $0.00”

📚Tap “Buy for $0.00” — this gives you the book for free (no subscription needed)

📚 Read it in your browser or the free Kindle app

If the workbook resonates, leaving a quick review on Amazon helps it reach more people who might really need these nervous-system-supportive tools right now. 💛

Link is in my bio or at drkaitlin.com/somaticworkbook.
Here’s what psychologists quietly teach: reflectin Here’s what psychologists quietly teach: reflecting on death can redirect your life.

I often use mortality reflection to help people get clear on their values, priorities, and how they actually want to live. Learning here about the idea of death tracking, colouring in a square each Monday to mark another week lived, and I am intrigued by how it can gently nudge us toward alignment (weekly!)

A few important notes: this may not be for everyone. If it triggers anxiety, rumination, or avoidance, trust yourself and skip it. Mortality awareness is a tool, not a punishment, and individual differences matter.

If it does support you, it can act like a compass, helping you focus on values, relationships, lifestyle habits such as movement, sleep, nourishing food, and social connection, and the kind of life you actually want to be living. Pair it with a reflection like, “If someone had to write my obituary today, what would I want it to say?” and suddenly Mondays feel like a check-in with purpose, not just a day.

Big thanks to @mamamiaaus @mamamiaoutloud  and @wainwrightholly for bringing this fascinating practice to my attention. Mondays may never be the same!

Save this for a day you need clarity 🧭 
Share it with someone who might be looking for their purpose this week 🤗
“Free therapy? Not quite. But something that might “Free therapy? Not quite. But something that might support your nervous system in a really beautiful way…” 💛✨

The Somatic Workbook is FREE on Kindle from Nov 14–18 - so go ahead and grab it (I did too!) at drkaitlin.com/somaticworkbook.

This isn’t just about getting a book into more hands. It’s about something bigger.
When even one of us feels a little more regulated, grounded, and connected, the ripple effects touch our families, our workplaces, our friendships and our whole community.

Sharing nervous system tools is one of the most accessible, compassionate things we can do for collective wellbeing. And right now, with everything happening in the world, small acts of care genuinely matter.

If you download your free copy and it resonates, leaving an Amazon review helps the book reach people who might really need it. And please feel free to share the link with friends, clients, or anyone who could benefit from a gentle, research-backed mind–body resource.

A small action. A big ripple.
Thank you for being part of this community. 💛

Download free via Amazon or head to drkaitlin.com/somaticworkbook
So… are you “in therapy because of your almond mum So… are you “in therapy because of your almond mum”?
I say that jokingly, because therapy is supportive for so many reasons. It can also be the place where we finally understand where certain unhelpful patterns began.

Growing up around constant diet talk, rigidity, or fear-based messaging about food and bodies does more than shape habits. It creates patterns in the nervous system.

Patterns of tightening.

Patterns of overriding hunger or pleasure.

Patterns of confusing control with safety.

*the defectiveness schema (typo in captions says ‘effectiveness’ whoops! 😅)

Over time these patterns blunt our interoception. We lose touch with hunger, fullness, emotion and intuition. When the body gets policed, the body gets quiet. When cues are judged, cues retreat.

And this work is not about blaming ourselves or our mums. Many of us inherited generations of anxiety about worth, safety and appearance. Understanding that helps us step into something new with compassion.

Healing asks us to soften rigidity, rebuild interoception, and let intuition speak again. It asks us to offer care to the parts of us that coped the only way they knew how.

Therapy, nervous system work and psychological skills help us understand these patterns and gently rewire them. Not because we are broken, but because we are finally safe enough to listen inward again.

Your cues are not gone. They are waiting to be trusted.

Follow for more psychological and somatic strategies to reconnect with your body and create healthier patterns. 

And, send this to a friend or sibling who will get the mum dynamic…😳
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Dr. Kaitlin pays her respects to the Kaurna peoples as the Traditional Owner’s of the land on which she works and lives. Dr Kaitlin acknowledges that the Kaurna people have social, spiritual and historical connections to this land and their connections are as strong today as they have always been. She would like to extend this acknowledgment out to the Traditional Owners of the land on which you are based, and to acknowledge the Ktunaxa and Kinbasket Peoples of what is now called Canada, as she was born and gratefully raised on their traditional unceded territory.

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