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Journeying Through a Dark Night of the Soul to Become a #Lovewarrior

with Dr. Meghan Davidson
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Welcome to the fifth episode of the Wisdom for Wellbeing Podcast. On this episode I interview Dr. Meghan Davidson, a Licensed Psychologist, a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator, Certified Yoga Teacher, and University of Nebraska – Lincoln faculty member. Dr. Davidson works with her clients in a holistic manner, utilizing aspects of mind, body, and spirit, and, as you will hear in this episode, really honours the individual journey each has to living their best life.

This episode feels filling and truly authentic, you hear Dr. Davidson show up fully in sharing her own journey through some very dark times. The bravery she demonstrates in gracefully expressing her vulnerably is powerful and connecting (both to her journey, but to one’s own humanness) . I particularly demonstrated with the metaphor and practice of developing strength on the yoga mat to support cultivating strength in other life areas. Her reminder that you can practice getting in contact with your body anywhere (even when driving!) was welcome – so enjoy the lovely meditation that Dr. Davidson will guide you through. I have no doubt you will also enjoy her wisdom on how love can be a compass, the importance of connecting with your support network in difficult times, and discussion on how yoga can be used as a tool for cultivating wholeness in your sense of self.

I just want to remind you that as this is the first week of the Wisdom for Wellbeing Podcast – I’m celebrating by releasing multiple episodes! So subscribe, and keep your eyes open for the next episodes.

We also have some really cool contests happening on social media (January 2020) where you can win some beautiful gifts to support your wellbeing journey, so head to @drkaitlin on Instagram or @wisdomforwellbeingpod on Facebook to connect. You will find links to the brands involved at the bottom of the show notes, as well as the T&Cs.

What is covered in this episode:

>> Getting through tough times by using love as a compass and living life as a #lovewarrior

>> How clarity in values effects how you show up (e.g. with authenticity and congruence)

>> Saying ‘yes’ to your support system and how it supports communal healing

>> The importance of finding your lifelines (e.g., girlfriends, therapist, yoga mat ) and reaching out to find common humanity

>> Cultivating internal fortitude, the strength of heart and soul, through the use of yoga (moving meditation in the face of significant suffering)

>> Exploring your unique healing journey, and knowing it may change over time

>> The process of working through pain on the journey to growth

>> How psychotherapy and yoga support the process of coming to love and integrate all the ‘pieces’ of yourself (from the vulnerable child, to the impostor feelings)

Links Discussed:

  • Love Warrior Healing (Dr. Meghan Davidson’s website – coming soon!)
  • Love Warrior: A Memoir by Glennon Doyle
  • The Artists Way by Julia Cameron
  • Brené Brown’s The Daring Way™
  • Connect with Dr. Meghan Davidson on her personal Instagram; and with Love Warrior Healing on Instagram and
    Facebook

Next episode:

In Episode 5, Tiffany de Sousa Machado, founder of The Village Foundation and researcher in the area of maternal mental health and community, shares about her own journey becoming a mother and her experience of postnatal depression, as well as discussing more broadly mental health, parenthood, and how we can create community – a village- using tools of this modern world, like the Village app. Think tinder, but for parents, and with all the layers of depth it that can support us to feel connected. Tiffany also shares the two questions not to ask new parents, and two very helpful alternatives!

Dr Meghan Davidson

by Dr. Meghan Davidson of Love Warrior Healing. Meghan is a Licensed Psychologist, a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator, and a Certified Yoga Teacher. Additionally, Meghan has been a faculty member at the University of Nebraska – Lincoln in the Counseling Psychology Program for the past 13 years. Having provided counseling, therapy, and coaching to individuals, couples, and groups for over 15 years, Meghan has honed her expertise in the areas of women’s health, body image, trauma, relationships, vulnerability, authenticity, and self-compassion. She has trained with Brené Brown and has developed expertise in trauma-informed yoga. Bridging the domains of psychology and yoga, Meghan works with her clients in a holistic manner, utilizing aspects of mind, body, and spirit to assist individuals enhance their emotional, psychological, and physical health so that they may live their best life.

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✨ Last day to grab the free book copy! ✨ A little ✨ Last day to grab the free book copy! ✨

A little reminder that today is the final day to download The Somatic Workbook for Nervous System Regulation and Anxiety Management for free via Kindle. It’s being offered as a gift to support building Amazon reviews 💝

A lot of you have shared how the practices are already supporting you, and quite a few psychologists have messaged saying they’re using the exercises with clients too. While the book is written for a general audience, the tools are very clinician-friendly.

Amazon has made the setup a bit confusing, so here’s how to get the free version without Kindle Unlimited:

📚 Go to the book page

📚Tap Kindle

📚You’ll see two options: “Read with Kindle Unlimited” and “Buy for $0.00”

📚Tap “Buy for $0.00” — this gives you the book for free (no subscription needed)

📚 Read it in your browser or the free Kindle app

If the workbook resonates, leaving a quick review on Amazon helps it reach more people who might really need these nervous-system-supportive tools right now. 💛

Link is in my bio or at drkaitlin.com/somaticworkbook.
Here’s what psychologists quietly teach: reflectin Here’s what psychologists quietly teach: reflecting on death can redirect your life.

I often use mortality reflection to help people get clear on their values, priorities, and how they actually want to live. Learning here about the idea of death tracking, colouring in a square each Monday to mark another week lived, and I am intrigued by how it can gently nudge us toward alignment (weekly!)

A few important notes: this may not be for everyone. If it triggers anxiety, rumination, or avoidance, trust yourself and skip it. Mortality awareness is a tool, not a punishment, and individual differences matter.

If it does support you, it can act like a compass, helping you focus on values, relationships, lifestyle habits such as movement, sleep, nourishing food, and social connection, and the kind of life you actually want to be living. Pair it with a reflection like, “If someone had to write my obituary today, what would I want it to say?” and suddenly Mondays feel like a check-in with purpose, not just a day.

Big thanks to @mamamiaaus @mamamiaoutloud  and @wainwrightholly for bringing this fascinating practice to my attention. Mondays may never be the same!

Save this for a day you need clarity 🧭 
Share it with someone who might be looking for their purpose this week 🤗
“Free therapy? Not quite. But something that might “Free therapy? Not quite. But something that might support your nervous system in a really beautiful way…” 💛✨

The Somatic Workbook is FREE on Kindle from Nov 14–18 - so go ahead and grab it (I did too!) at drkaitlin.com/somaticworkbook.

This isn’t just about getting a book into more hands. It’s about something bigger.
When even one of us feels a little more regulated, grounded, and connected, the ripple effects touch our families, our workplaces, our friendships and our whole community.

Sharing nervous system tools is one of the most accessible, compassionate things we can do for collective wellbeing. And right now, with everything happening in the world, small acts of care genuinely matter.

If you download your free copy and it resonates, leaving an Amazon review helps the book reach people who might really need it. And please feel free to share the link with friends, clients, or anyone who could benefit from a gentle, research-backed mind–body resource.

A small action. A big ripple.
Thank you for being part of this community. 💛

Download free via Amazon or head to drkaitlin.com/somaticworkbook
So… are you “in therapy because of your almond mum So… are you “in therapy because of your almond mum”?
I say that jokingly, because therapy is supportive for so many reasons. It can also be the place where we finally understand where certain unhelpful patterns began.

Growing up around constant diet talk, rigidity, or fear-based messaging about food and bodies does more than shape habits. It creates patterns in the nervous system.

Patterns of tightening.

Patterns of overriding hunger or pleasure.

Patterns of confusing control with safety.

*the defectiveness schema (typo in captions says ‘effectiveness’ whoops! 😅)

Over time these patterns blunt our interoception. We lose touch with hunger, fullness, emotion and intuition. When the body gets policed, the body gets quiet. When cues are judged, cues retreat.

And this work is not about blaming ourselves or our mums. Many of us inherited generations of anxiety about worth, safety and appearance. Understanding that helps us step into something new with compassion.

Healing asks us to soften rigidity, rebuild interoception, and let intuition speak again. It asks us to offer care to the parts of us that coped the only way they knew how.

Therapy, nervous system work and psychological skills help us understand these patterns and gently rewire them. Not because we are broken, but because we are finally safe enough to listen inward again.

Your cues are not gone. They are waiting to be trusted.

Follow for more psychological and somatic strategies to reconnect with your body and create healthier patterns. 

And, send this to a friend or sibling who will get the mum dynamic…😳
Your phone is a pokie machine in your pocket. Eve Your phone is a pokie machine in your pocket.

Every time you scroll or check for a message, you’re pulling the lever — chasing that next unpredictable reward.

Maybe there’s:
💬 A message from a friend
❤️ A like or comment
😂 A funny video
😶 Or… nothing

That “maybe” is what keeps you hooked.
This is called a variable reward schedule, the same psychological setup used in gambling addiction.
Your brain releases more dopamine when it doesn’t know if a reward is coming. So, it keeps checking “just in case.”

Over time, this constant anticipation trains your nervous system to stay on alert.
We start to feel:
😵‍💫 Restless without our phone
😔 Flat or distracted after scrolling
💬 Overstimulated but under-connected

It’s not weak willpower, it’s how the brain’s reward system adapts to the environment it’s in.

Out of sight, out of mind:
It takes a lot of mental energy to not reach for your phone when it’s right there. Every act of resistance drains the same willpower you need for focus and creativity. Instead of relying on motivation, change the setup: keep your phone in another room when you work, eat, or sleep. The harder it is to reach, the easier it is to resist.

Use a Brick or lock box:
If “out of sight” isn’t realistic, use structure over self-discipline. Tools like The Brick or time-lock boxes limit access so you’re not negotiating with yourself all day. You can still reach your phone — but the small barrier protects your focus.

Turn off notifications or use grayscale:
Fewer pings and flashes mean fewer dopamine spikes. Simplify what your nervous system has to manage.

Pause before you scroll:
Notice the urge — that flicker of restlessness or boredom — and take one slow breath. Often your body’s asking for rest or connection, not stimulation.

Curate consciously:
Follow accounts that calm and inspire. Mute the ones that drain you.

You don’t need to quit your phone, just learn to use it without being used by it.

Share this with a friend who’d love to feel more focused (and less frazzled).
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