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How to Cope with Change and Uncertainty to Create Vitality in Your Life 

Dr. Louise Hayes, PhD
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Welcome to the seventeenth episode of Season Five of Wisdom for Wellbeing Podcast. In this episode, I interview Dr Louise Hayes, Clinical Psychologist, author, speaker and active humanitarian. Louise discusses how we can navigate the many changes we are experiencing as a society, from the pandemic to climate change to all of the many personal changes we may experience.

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What is covered in this episode:

>>An introduction to Louise and her human struggles finding her way to work she finds so meaningful and a life that is so rich

>>Understanding what it means to be psychologically ‘strong’

>>An overview of the sophisticated (yet simple!) system Louise and her colleagues have developed to offer you a practical approach to cope with change and uncertainty 

>>Skills to cultivate your ability to manage your thinking mind (that might be glass half empty… like 80% of the population)

>>Understanding how cultivate vitality in your life and live in alignment with your values

>>The profound practice of breathing and being

>>How doing something new can support your journey to wellbeing (even getting a morning coffee at your local cafe!)

>>How Louise maintains hope for humanity, even with all the challenges our climate and people are facing 

>>Where you can get a copy of Louise’s new book ‘What Makes You Stronger’ and connect with her

Links Discussed:

  • Louise’s new book: ‘What Makes you Stronger’
  • www.louisehayes.com.au
  • Louise Hayes Facebook, Louise Hayes Twitter
  • Check out Louise’s previous episode on supporting adolescents to cultivate a wise understanding of their many dimensions

Dr Louise Hayes

Louise Hayes is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and active humanitarian. She is the Past President of ACBS, and a peer reviewed Acceptance and Commitment Therapy/Training (ACT) trainer. Together with Joseph Ciarrochi she developed DNA-v, which is a developmental model of acceptance and commitment therapy and positive psychology. She is the author of four books, including the best-selling book, Get Out of Your Mind and into your Life for Teenagers: A Guide to Living an Extraordinary Life; and the practitioner book, The Thriving Adolescent: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Positive Psychology to Help Teens Manage Emotions, Achieve Goals, and Build Connection. Her latest book, What Makes You Stronger, is designed to help you in coping with change and uncertainty in your life. Louise is also an active clinician, working with adult and adolescents in private practice. She was a Senior Fellow with The University of Melbourne and Orygen, The National Centre of Excellence in Youth Mental Health, and also led a research and treatment program to work with disruptive behaviours in primary school children. Louise is an active humanitarian, taking mental health professionals into the Himalaya to develop their mindfulness skills and raise funds for poor children in remote Nepal. For more information on Louise go to – www.louishayes.com.au or www.thrivingadolescent.com

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Vision boards don’t work when they’re about things Vision boards don’t work when they’re about things.
They work when they’re about values.

As a clinical psychologist, this is the distinction I make in The Somatic Workbook.

This isn’t about manifesting cars, bags, or a “perfect life.”
And it’s not the pseudoscientific version of the law of attraction.

A values based vision board uses visualisation to clarify how you want to feel, live, and show up.

Here’s the process I use:

• Identify your top 5 to 10 values for this season of life
• Choose a theme for your board, either your whole life or one domain like work, relationships, or wellbeing
• Collect images, words, symbols, and colours that evoke contentment, not achievement
• Arrange them in a way that feels right in your body
• Place the board somewhere you will see it daily, as a gentle nervous system cue rather than a demand

This is how change actually happens.
What we keep in awareness shapes attention, and attention shapes action.

And as your life evolves, your vision can evolve too.
No forcing. No fixing. Just recalibrating toward what matters now.

🔖Save this if you want to create a values aligned vision board.
🤗Share it with your creation community… and put together your snack platter + crafting supplies.

Grateful for the women who made this process a little extra special ✨💕 @mariahgates_ @australianpsychologist @carlasconfessionalcabaret @chelsea.marie.wick @made_and_nurtured_art
2025 had a word for me: integration ✨ Not doing m 2025 had a word for me: integration ✨

Not doing more (though, it was BIG!)
Bringing things together.

This year held so much.
Publishing The Somatic Workbook with @pesipublishing 📕 
Meaningful podcast and article conversations.
Leading multiple workshops.
Moving house.
Watching the little ones start kindergarten.

Big professional milestones alongside amazing personal shifts and big birthdays too.

Somewhere along the way, the theme became clear.
Integration of mind and body.
Learning and living.
Growth with steadiness.

I even made a mug at one workshop with @made_and_nurtured_art to mark it.

As I look ahead, integration is coming with me into the next season.

If you are starting your year craving more regulation and reflection, The Somatic Workbook was designed for exactly that. Practical exercises, journaling, and nervous system support that you can actually use. (Link with bonuses in bio 🔗)

A beautiful way to close one year and consciously shape the next.
Here’s to a year and a life well lived.

💖Until soon, Kaitlin xx
The best Christmas present isn’t under the tree. A The best Christmas present isn’t under the tree.
And if this season feels both joyful and heavy, you’re not alone.

From an evidence-based lifestyle medicine and psychology perspective, the most protective thing you can offer yourself right now is nervous system support.

A few gentle ways to move through the holidays:

🎄 Eat to steady your body, not to be “good.” Regular meals with protein, fibre, and fats support mood, energy, and emotional regulation.
🎄 Consider non-alcoholic swaps some of the time. Better sleep equals more emotional bandwidth the next day.
🎄 Move in small, human ways. Walks, stretching, or even doing the dishes help the body release stress.
🎄 Choose presence over perfection. Relationships matter more than how things look.
🎄 Hold joy and grief. You can laugh and still miss someone. Both belong.
🎄 Practise kindness and altruism. Many people are carrying invisible losses. Donating, checking in, or helping out supports others and the research shows it supports our wellbeing too.

This year has been full, meaningful, and deeply human. I’m grateful for the conversations, the learning, and the chance to support nervous system compassion and I look forward to continuing that work in the year ahead.

If you’re moving through this season imperfectly, gently, or with mixed emotions, you’re doing it right.
PSA: We don’t regulate our nervous systems with in PSA: We don’t regulate our nervous systems with insight alone.
And we don’t heal through body-based tools without psychological skills.

It’s the both/and that matters.

The things in this carousel aren’t “luxuries” or once-a-year treats. They’re the quiet, repeatable supports that make daily life feel more workable. Tools that help the body feel safe and give the mind something steady to lean on.

I use every single thing on this list. Not because I need more stuff, but because they genuinely make my life better. When family ask what I want, I often say gift certificates (massage, sauna, bodywork), because being cared for through the body is deeply regulating and long-lasting.

And alongside that? Psychological strategies. Practising skills that help you meet anxiety, stress, and overwhelm with less self-blame and more choice. Hence, I wrote The Somatic Workbook for Nervous System Regulation and Anxiety Management. Learning how your nervous system works. 

This post isn’t really about Christmas…
It’s about how we support ourselves across an entire year.

Save this for when you need ideas that actually soothe your system, and share it with someone who could use a little more nervous system support heading into 2026 🤍

PS can you find the bonus C on the front page… let’s say it’s there for a little extra recommended *calm* 😉

@shaktimats 
@altinadrinks 
@drink.mellows 
@kobobooks 
@loopearplugs 
@locolovechocolate 
@loopearplugs
This season, the real flex is slowing down enough This season, the real flex is slowing down enough to feel your own body again.✨

I’ve been playing with a few new tools to navigate my nervous system in the rush toward year’s end (hello CrossFit-style class… and yes, that Lagree class I shared last week!). And in the evenings, this looks like giving my legs some much-needed TLC with the @shaktimats Acupressure Leg Wraps (magic 💖).

These wraps hug your calf and upper leg with such clever design, they avoiding the shin, adjustable compression straps, and honestly… the moment you put them on, you have to sit down. Which, for so many of us during the holidays, is half the medicine.

A built-in pause.
A forced exhale.
A moment to be with yourself (and… perhaps… your book or journal!)

I’ve been settling in and just let the acupressure do its thing while reading, relaxing and soaking up the slow of some grounding breaths and horizontal time in front of the tree. A small ritual of care in a month where energy pours outward in every direction… caregiving, planning, wrapping, doing.

And while my focus has been on recovery and balancing movement and stress, a colleague shared that she’s been using these wraps to help her navigate some of the muscular tension and sensory discomfort she experiences with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS). It really highlighted how adaptable these kinds of tools can be, whether it’s supporting tired legs, providing gentle pressure, encouraging grounding, or simply creating a moment of stillness we wouldn’t otherwise take.

If you’ve followed me for a while, you’ll know I’m all about practices and tools that create space for the body to settle. Not hacks. But intentional little invitations back to ourselves, especially in seasons where we need it most.

So if you’re in the thick of the holiday busyness, consider this your reminder: you’re allowed to stop. You’re allowed to care for the body that carries so much. And you’re allowed to invest in the support that helps you move into the new year nourished, not depleted. 

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Dr. Kaitlin pays her respects to the Kaurna peoples as the Traditional Owner’s of the land on which she works and lives. Dr Kaitlin acknowledges that the Kaurna people have social, spiritual and historical connections to this land and their connections are as strong today as they have always been. She would like to extend this acknowledgment out to the Traditional Owners of the land on which you are based, and to acknowledge the Ktunaxa and Kinbasket Peoples of what is now called Canada, as she was born and gratefully raised on their traditional unceded territory.

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