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Navigating Perfectionism with Self-Compassion and Mindful Acceptance

with Jennifer Kemp
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Welcome to the first episode of Season Four of Wisdom for Wellbeing Podcast. On this episode I interview Jennifer Kemp, Clinical Psychologist.

Perfectionism can be a battle for so many of us. So on this episode, we welcome Jennifer to help us navigate all the ways we can heal from these tendencies through self-compassion and mindful acceptance.

Want to keep in touch? Head to @drkaitlin on Instagram or @wisdomforwellbeingpod on Facebook to connect.

What is covered in this episode:

>>Perfectionism as a transdiagnostic experience of “never good enough”

>>Exploration of the 5 core processes of perfectionism:

  • Setting high standards with rigidity
  • Strong fear of failure
  • Unreasonable efforts to avoid failure (and the slippery slope to OCD)
  • Self criticism
  • The experiences are causing bigger problems in life

>>The short-term reinforcements that keep perfectionistic tendencies going

>>How to tackle the ‘big bad’ fears that underlie perfectionism

>>The Passengers On A Bus metaphor as a way of understanding how we relate to our inner critic

>>The role of self-compassion in healing and how to start this process

Links Discussed

  • Jennifer’s website: ​​jenniferkemp.com.au
  • Find the example of the two teachers on her webpage

You’ll find a copy of the Episode Transcript below.

Jennifer Kemp

Jennifer Kemp is a Clinical Psychologist who has a special interest in perfectionism from both her own experience and through the work she does with clients. Jennifer integrates Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), clinical behaviour analysis, and exposure with self-compassion in her work. In her private practice in Adelaide, Australia, Jennifer sees clients struggling with chronic illness, depression, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), eating disorders, trauma, grief and loss.

Jennifer has a background in leadership coaching and facilitation and provides supervision to Clinical Registrars and experienced practitioners. She is the author of “The ACT Workbook for Perfectionism” for New Harbinger, due for release in December 2021.

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This season, the real flex is slowing down enough This season, the real flex is slowing down enough to feel your own body again.✨

I’ve been playing with a few new tools to navigate my nervous system in the rush toward year’s end (hello CrossFit-style class… and yes, that Lagree class I shared last week!). And in the evenings, this looks like giving my legs some much-needed TLC with the @shaktimats Acupressure Leg Wraps (magic 💖).

These wraps hug your calf and upper leg with such clever design, they avoiding the shin, adjustable compression straps, and honestly… the moment you put them on, you have to sit down. Which, for so many of us during the holidays, is half the medicine.

A built-in pause.
A forced exhale.
A moment to be with yourself (and… perhaps… your book or journal!)

I’ve been settling in and just let the acupressure do its thing while reading, relaxing and soaking up the slow of some grounding breaths and horizontal time in front of the tree. A small ritual of care in a month where energy pours outward in every direction… caregiving, planning, wrapping, doing.

And while my focus has been on recovery and balancing movement and stress, a colleague shared that she’s been using these wraps to help her navigate some of the muscular tension and sensory discomfort she experiences with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS). It really highlighted how adaptable these kinds of tools can be, whether it’s supporting tired legs, providing gentle pressure, encouraging grounding, or simply creating a moment of stillness we wouldn’t otherwise take.

If you’ve followed me for a while, you’ll know I’m all about practices and tools that create space for the body to settle. Not hacks. But intentional little invitations back to ourselves, especially in seasons where we need it most.

So if you’re in the thick of the holiday busyness, consider this your reminder: you’re allowed to stop. You’re allowed to care for the body that carries so much. And you’re allowed to invest in the support that helps you move into the new year nourished, not depleted. 

Have you tried Shakti? Thoughts👇
This morning I tried something new… and wow, what This morning I tried something new… and wow, what a beautiful way to start a Sunday.

I went to a Lagree class at @corebrew_lagree here on Kaurna Land in the Adelaide CBD, and the moment I stepped inside I could feel my whole system exhale. The studio was open and bright, sunlight streaming in, that soft morning glow filling the space.

There’s something special about moving your body in a way it’s not used to - waking up deep stabilisers, slowing things down enough to truly feel the effort, the tremble, the strength building from the inside out. Lagree is such an interesting blend of slow, mindful resistance and controlled challenge… which, in many ways, is exactly what somatic work invites too. Not pushing through. Not dominating the body. But meeting sensation with awareness, curiosity, and breath.

Trying something new can be a little nerve-wracking… that flutter of activation we all feel stepping into the unfamiliar. Yet, it can also be such a gift! Today it reminded me how aliveness often sits just on the other side of “I’m not sure about this.”

And the best part? The community feel. People smiling, chatting, supporting each other. I even ran into someone I studied with many years ago, which made the world feel suddenly smaller in such a connecting way. I finished the class to have my coffee ready, perfection.

Tell me, have you tried Lagree? If not, lean into your curiosity ✨
You can ONLY understand your life backwards! In m You can ONLY understand your life backwards!

In my case it was very important that in my 20s I took a scholarship to do a clinical psychology PhD and stay in Australia… because it allowed me to research yoga, the mind–body connection, and put me on the path to writing The Somatic Workbook for Nervous System Regulation and Anxiety Management with @pesipublishing, supporting thousands of people to heal.

But the real truth is this:
So many of the choices that felt uncertain, stressful, or even “wrong” at the time were quietly pointing me exactly where I needed to go.

And if we look back further than my 20s, we might even say that some of the suffering earlier in life is what nudged me toward yoga in the first place. Yoga opened the door to psychology. Psychology opened the door to understanding the nervous system. And that journey is what allowed me to weave everything together into this book.

The Somatic Workbook is built on the idea that our emotional and behavioural patterns aren’t failures. They’re protective adaptations, shaped by the challenges we’ve lived through. Sometimes even the hardest experiences lay the foundations for our future clarity, meaning, and purpose.

If you’re curious about your own protective patterns or the schemas (those deep-down beliefs about ourselves and the world) that might still be influencing how you move through life, this book will help you understand and gently unwind them so they don’t hold you back from what’s next.

✨ The Somatic Workbook for Nervous System Regulation and Anxiety Management
Link in bio if you’d like to dive deeper into your own healing ❤️‍🩹 maybe it’s just the tool you need under the tree to support you in starting 2026 with a little more clarity.
Sure… a bath, a book and candles feel okay in the Sure… a bath, a book and candles feel okay in the moment. But this is NOT self care.
This is self soothing.

Self soothing helps you ground and allows your body soften just enough to catch its breath. It has a place and it matters.
But it doesn’t change the deeper truth that life has been full and your nervous system has been carrying a lot.

Real self care is different.
It’s the lifestyle medicine. The boundaries you set, the rest you protect, the food that nourishes you, the relationships that steady you, the sunlight and movement that help your system regulate.
It’s the choices that shift the conditions your nervous system lives in, not just the way you feel for a few minutes.

Both are important, but they’re not the same.

If you want gentle, research-informed practices to support daily regulation, The Somatic Workbook for Nervous System Regulation and Anxiety Management is linked in my bio.

Now tell me… what are your thoughts on whatever we call ‘manifesting’ - I’m so curious! ✨
Is the holiday season feeling more overwhelming th Is the holiday season feeling more overwhelming than “joyful and bright”? You’re not alone!

I’m honoured to have been part of an amazing @bodyandsoul_au piece by @adavies234 that explored how you can navigate stress and stay connected to yourself through the festivities ahead. Some amazing wellness experts have shared their favourite strategies, and The Somatic Workbook is referenced in it too, Yey!

Grap a copy of the Sunday paper if you want a few grounded reminders as we move through December.

Curious about The Somatic Workbook for Nervous System Regulation and Anxiety Management? It’s my practical, research-informed guide for working with your nervous system. There’s more info in the link in my bio🔗 Maybe it will even find its home under a few Christmas trees and set the tone for a more regulated nervous system in the year ahead 💝
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Dr. Kaitlin pays her respects to the Kaurna peoples as the Traditional Owner’s of the land on which she works and lives. Dr Kaitlin acknowledges that the Kaurna people have social, spiritual and historical connections to this land and their connections are as strong today as they have always been. She would like to extend this acknowledgment out to the Traditional Owners of the land on which you are based, and to acknowledge the Ktunaxa and Kinbasket Peoples of what is now called Canada, as she was born and gratefully raised on their traditional unceded territory.

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