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Cultivating a New Relationship with The Body Society Told You to Hate

with Dr. Emily K. Sandoz
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Welcome to the tenth episode of the Wisdom for Wellbeing Podcast. On this episode I interview Dr. Emily K. Sandoz, a brilliant researcher, author and clinician in the field of body-related difficulties.

This episode is incredibly important given the high likelihood that you will identify with the experience of being dissatisfied with your body at some point in your life. Further, an increasing number of both women and men do then go on to develop eating disorders. Alongside this, you have no doubt heard of the #bodypositive movement – it is growing – but, Dr. Sandoz talks through the reasons why this may actually be more harmful than helpful. Instead, Dr. Sandoz will introduce you to the concept of body image flexibility, and how you can make peace with your and life a life that feels full to you.

What is covered in this episode:

>> The concept of ‘Body Image’ and different experiences and challenges

>> An introduction to the concept of Body Image Flexibility

>> Acceptance and Commitment Therapy-based approach to treating body image concerns

>> How pain that impairs your ability to life your full life becomes suffering

>> How values can guide your life, including work with body image

>> How to support the development of a more helpful sense of self from an early age

>> How body image experiences affect you emotionally and physically

Links Discussed

  • Dr. Emily K. Sandoz’s email
  • Dr. Emily K. Sandoz’s website
  • Living with Your Body and Other Things You Hate: How to Let Go of Your Struggle with Body Image Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy by Emily K. Sandoz and Troy DuFrene (BOOK)
  • The Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Bulimia: A Guide to Breaking Free from Bulimia Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy by Emily K. Sandoz, Kelly G. Wilson, and Troy DuFrene (BOOK)
  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for Eating Disorders: A Process-Focused Guide to Treating Anorexia and Bulimia Paperback by Emily K. Sandoz, Kelly G. Wilson, and Troy DuFrene (BOOK)

Dr Emily K. Sansoz

Dr. Sandoz is the Emma Louise LeBlanc Burguieres/BORSF Endowed Professor of Social Sciences in the Psychology Department at the University of Louisiana at Lafayette. Emily is the Director of the Louisiana Contextual Science Research Group and the Editor-in-Chief of the Journal of Contextual Behavioral Science. She has co-authored three books on acceptance and commitment therapy for struggles with eating and body image, along with chapters and journal articles on ACT, Relational Frame Theory, values, the therapeutic relationship, and psychological flexibility. Emily has led more than 70 professional training workshops around the world, and serves as a peer-reviewed ACT trainer. She also practices as a Clinical Psychologist, focusing on clinical behavior analysis of body-related difficulties.

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I often use mortality reflection to help people get clear on their values, priorities, and how they actually want to live. Learning here about the idea of death tracking, colouring in a square each Monday to mark another week lived, and I am intrigued by how it can gently nudge us toward alignment (weekly!)

A few important notes: this may not be for everyone. If it triggers anxiety, rumination, or avoidance, trust yourself and skip it. Mortality awareness is a tool, not a punishment, and individual differences matter.

If it does support you, it can act like a compass, helping you focus on values, relationships, lifestyle habits such as movement, sleep, nourishing food, and social connection, and the kind of life you actually want to be living. Pair it with a reflection like, “If someone had to write my obituary today, what would I want it to say?” and suddenly Mondays feel like a check-in with purpose, not just a day.

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So… are you “in therapy because of your almond mum So… are you “in therapy because of your almond mum”?
I say that jokingly, because therapy is supportive for so many reasons. It can also be the place where we finally understand where certain unhelpful patterns began.

Growing up around constant diet talk, rigidity, or fear-based messaging about food and bodies does more than shape habits. It creates patterns in the nervous system.

Patterns of tightening.

Patterns of overriding hunger or pleasure.

Patterns of confusing control with safety.

*the defectiveness schema (typo in captions says ‘effectiveness’ whoops! 😅)

Over time these patterns blunt our interoception. We lose touch with hunger, fullness, emotion and intuition. When the body gets policed, the body gets quiet. When cues are judged, cues retreat.

And this work is not about blaming ourselves or our mums. Many of us inherited generations of anxiety about worth, safety and appearance. Understanding that helps us step into something new with compassion.

Healing asks us to soften rigidity, rebuild interoception, and let intuition speak again. It asks us to offer care to the parts of us that coped the only way they knew how.

Therapy, nervous system work and psychological skills help us understand these patterns and gently rewire them. Not because we are broken, but because we are finally safe enough to listen inward again.

Your cues are not gone. They are waiting to be trusted.

Follow for more psychological and somatic strategies to reconnect with your body and create healthier patterns. 

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Your phone is a pokie machine in your pocket. Eve Your phone is a pokie machine in your pocket.

Every time you scroll or check for a message, you’re pulling the lever — chasing that next unpredictable reward.

Maybe there’s:
💬 A message from a friend
❤️ A like or comment
😂 A funny video
😶 Or… nothing

That “maybe” is what keeps you hooked.
This is called a variable reward schedule, the same psychological setup used in gambling addiction.
Your brain releases more dopamine when it doesn’t know if a reward is coming. So, it keeps checking “just in case.”

Over time, this constant anticipation trains your nervous system to stay on alert.
We start to feel:
😵‍💫 Restless without our phone
😔 Flat or distracted after scrolling
💬 Overstimulated but under-connected

It’s not weak willpower, it’s how the brain’s reward system adapts to the environment it’s in.

Out of sight, out of mind:
It takes a lot of mental energy to not reach for your phone when it’s right there. Every act of resistance drains the same willpower you need for focus and creativity. Instead of relying on motivation, change the setup: keep your phone in another room when you work, eat, or sleep. The harder it is to reach, the easier it is to resist.

Use a Brick or lock box:
If “out of sight” isn’t realistic, use structure over self-discipline. Tools like The Brick or time-lock boxes limit access so you’re not negotiating with yourself all day. You can still reach your phone — but the small barrier protects your focus.

Turn off notifications or use grayscale:
Fewer pings and flashes mean fewer dopamine spikes. Simplify what your nervous system has to manage.

Pause before you scroll:
Notice the urge — that flicker of restlessness or boredom — and take one slow breath. Often your body’s asking for rest or connection, not stimulation.

Curate consciously:
Follow accounts that calm and inspire. Mute the ones that drain you.

You don’t need to quit your phone, just learn to use it without being used by it.

Share this with a friend who’d love to feel more focused (and less frazzled).
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